Walls… they are a part of our every day life and we don’t think twice about them for they are practical barriers that separate and give privacy. However, when emotional walls are constructed around our heart they imprison and destroy.

Like the main character in my book, A Rag Doll’s Heart, suffering can come all too soon in our lives and we find ourselves forging these emotional barricades around our heart to conceal our pain.  We usually run from childhood trauma as soon as we are adults trying to forget our turmoil. Fear propels us into a state of protection and it sets itself as ruler of our hearts, becoming an obsession, for we desperately don’t want to feel the misery we once experienced.

We then attempt to move on and take control of our own lives, and we are successful for awhile, but eventually the effects of our anxiety resurge later in our relationships and we become at a loss as what to do.

You must know that the remnants of childhood sorrow, or any type of sorrow for that matter, cannot be successfully hidden in your heart; your pain will always materialize in other ways, in particular with people when they disappoint, anger, or hurt you.

We think constructing these emotional walls to hide behind will provide the relief and safety we yearn for; but tragically they leave us terribly vulnerable while bringing more deception and fear into our souls.

Have you ever tried to mask your torment with substance abuse, over-eating, a controlling nature, anger, isolation, over-obsession with work or career, etc? The problem with walls is that you are trying to protect yourself from the lies that you have been told by hiding behind lies you have constructed. Do you understand what I mean?

Sadly, we believe devising schemes will alleviate our suffering and bring security and peace to our lives, but it does anything but that!

The walls we build actually block the truth from us and impede our healing. They are nothing but obstructions that camouflage the lies; lies that are disguised as artificial healing to obscure the truth. These walls we’ve built will never bring the everlasting healing that Christ offers; they will only keep us in a brutal bondage unable to see clearly.

Unfortunately, we have becomes so accustomed to these walls or lies that we don’t even realize the damage they’re causing. Again, their main objective is to block truth and impede healing. So, anything that you are doing that prevents you from receiving the love and healing from Jesus Christ is a strategy of Satan, to keep you in captivity.

Walls are very dangerous place to hide. I know this because my walls of deception came crashing down on me, like Rag Doll’s did. The world that I had tried to control so well, erupted one day spewing the truth to all my friends and family about my husband’s abuse. But I knew it was time, long over due, God had to care of my chaotic mess now… and he did.

He showed the magnitude of his love by being with me in the midst of my turmoil. He revealed the truth of who I am, what he thinks of me and that he was faithful and worthy of my trust because he cherishes me.

There’s a place I go to discover my worth, a place that reveals who I really am, I cannot get that from anyone else. I must get it from God’s Word.

Psalm 9:9 states: The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.

At first glance you don’t see it, but let’s dig deeper and look up the following words:

Refuge: it means, protection from danger or distress, a stronghold, which protects by its strength; a sanctuary.

Stronghold means: a place of security, a fortified place.

Fortify means: to surround with a wall.

Do you see what we’re trying to do?

We are attempting to build our own walls of protection from oppression, all the while Jesus is saying come to me, I am your refuge, your security, your protection.

We try and fail by constructing elaborate emotional walls thinking they will conceal the anguish we live in. However, Jesus says he is our stronghold, our wall of strength and shelter from affliction, depression or torment.

We don’t need to build walls of defense and protection because Christ is that for us already. Think on the irony of that for a minute.

We must remember that Satan loves to counterfeit anything pure and holy that Christ establishes. He is deceiving us through our need to build walls.

God fortifies, safeguards, and reinforces… permanently. That means he strengthens, secures, encourages and sustains us; because that is his character!!

Our walls are a temporary, miserable attempt at healing, devised and provoked by Satan. The walls we maintain need to be dismantled by Christ, alone. He is the only one that can completely eradicate them from our hearts, so we can live in the peace and freedom he offers.

This is where you begin, in knowing that God is willing! So surrender the walls you have constructed… moment by moment… though-out your day, knowing that because of his powerful love for you, he will heal your brokenness. He has said it time after time, so trust him!



Posted by , June 12, 2020 18 comments


  1. You are so right Maggie – building walls intensifies the pain rather than avoids it. We prolong the struggle. Great article!

    Comment by Char on July 13, 2017 at 1:56 am

  2. Char, indeed those walls do intensify our pain. I pray I can help point women to Christ our true healer. Thank you for stopping by and encouraging me!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:31 am

  3. Loves reading your blog! So inspiring keep writing love reading it.

    Comment by Connie Lofland on July 13, 2017 at 3:37 am

  4. Oh, thank you Connie! Your encouragement means so much! Thank you for stopping by and suporting me!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:29 am

  5. I have a prayer exercise I like to do. I like to lean against a tower (in my imagination) with the names of God engraved on it. His name is truly a strong tower.

    Comment by Alice Mills on July 13, 2017 at 5:46 am

  6. Alice, yes he is our strong tower and our refuge in times of trouble! What would we do without him? Thank you for stopping by and encouraging us all!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:30 am

  7. Great word! I have never thought of over-eating, etc. as being a “wall” but it most certainly is!

    Comment by Leah on July 13, 2017 at 2:37 pm

  8. Thank you, Leah for stopping by and reading my blog! It means so much to me! We are good at constructing those walls aren’t we?

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:26 am

  9. Beautifully said. I like the addition of definitions. It seems so many women are hurting in this way! God is a God of refuge and answers. Thank you Maggie!I’d love to get your book, but not in my budget just now.

    Comment by April Boyer on July 13, 2017 at 4:45 pm

  10. I appreciate your encouragement, April. I know I see so many women searching for their worth, my passion is to help them find it in Christ. Thank you for stopping by!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:25 am

  11. Yes, I used to have so many walls up because of child abuse. I thought creating them would keep me from pain, but it really only kept me from love. The Lord helped me with that. Thanks for your post. Surrendering really is the way to love.

    Comment by Josephine on July 14, 2017 at 2:37 am

  12. Josephine, I’m sorry for your pain, but so thankful for your healing in Christ! Thank you for stopping by with words of encouragement!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:23 am

  13. Yes! So important to let the Lord dismantle your walls before they come crashing down. The beautiful news, our God is a God of restoration. He can rebuild from the rubble of our walls!

    Comment by Kate Redmon on July 16, 2017 at 10:57 pm

  14. Amen, Kate! Thank you for stopping by with words of encouragement. I appreciate that so much!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:22 am

  15. Thank-you for sharing such wonderful truth! I can identify with building the walls to “protect” after being hurt/abused. GOD truly is the only real refuge and the true source of healing…Let us be willing to let Him crumble the walls of false protection so we can find our refuge in Him!

    Comment by Lindsey on July 17, 2017 at 3:05 pm

  16. Lindsey, I’m sorry for your pain of abuse. God is so faithful and I am honored to be among women who want to declare Christ’s healing so the walls can be dismantled! Thank you for stopping by and reading my blog and for your encouragement!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:38 am

  17. Hi Maggie! Visiting today from CWBU.

    Enjoyed this post! Yes, we expect to be edified by our own “wall lies,” but when those walls inevitably fall, we’re left with more baggage than when we began. Thanks for the reminder that the truth is the only way to freedom.

    And thanks again for stopping by my blog today!

    Comment by Allison Wixted on July 17, 2017 at 6:02 pm

  18. Thank you so much Allison, for stopping by and encouraging me and others!

    Comment by Maggie Simmons on July 19, 2017 at 4:21 am

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